Caymen, I'm not saying there is anything wrong with older generations feeling that way and it working for them.
I think this whole "head of the household", and "having the final say" way of thinking is outdated, that's all.
And it is NOT anti-Christian to think that way, IMHO.
That line of thinking might be considered "outdated" but ironically, divorce rates have since that "outdated" thinking has changed. Coincidence? I doubt it.
As for being anti-Christian, ever read the scripture that says the head of the Woman is the Man. The head of the Man is Christ. The head of Christ is God.
Well, in a household where the man has the final say, then that can happen quite a bit...the man being wrong and having to admit it. Isn't it a better arrangement when the husband and wife can listen to each other and come to the best possible decision they both can agree on, without one person assuming they have the "final say†and therefore ruling the household with potentially bad or decisions?
That is the way it works. The best possible decision isn't always what is best for the man, but sometimes the best for the man is best for the family. That is where headship comes into play. In no way does saying as the head of household does the man act like a tyrant.
For crying out loud, my name is not Dubya.
If I wanted to start a fight I would say that to some it would seem that you treat homosexuals that you have no real vesting in with more respect and admiration than your own wife, but that would be a low blow, so I won't say it.
I treat my wife with the absolute utmost respect. She is my queen and I care about her more than myself.
Caymen, others that subscribe to this "head of the household" thinking, consider these questions and answer them here if you would:
1. Do you feel that you moreso than your wife is better equipped or capabile of making the final decision on issues of importance in your family and if so, explain why?
Depends on the situation. Men think with logic, women think with emotion. Some situations depend on logic, other require emotion.
2. If not, and you assume you and your wife is equally capable of making the decisions for your household, why do you think that YOU alone should have the "final say" on decisions?
Again, it dpepends on the situation. Sometimes we get caught up with emotional things. Both men and women do. That doesn;t mean the man MUST just "pull the trump card" and make a decision. That is where respect comes into play. Sure, if my wife was an investment manager, I would let her decide where to invest our money. If she was a lawyer, I would not tell her how to plead a case. Same with what she does for a living. I give her ideas on how to increase her sales. Sometimes she tells me it wont work, and I let it go. Other times, she will look at me and say she never thought about it, but will do it.
Before answering, let me state that I recognize there are areas of expertise that people have, and some of those lie along gender lines. For example, my wife willingly lets me select computers and high tech gear for the house, etc, but those types of things, the cars we drive, etc, aren't really the "important decisions" I'm talking about.
I understand where you are coming from, but you think as if I walk into the house and she gets on the floor and kisses my feet. As if I require her to do that.
I guess I'm trying to userstand where this "veto" and "final say" mentality comes from and why it is considered good, and healthy.
It is good and healthy. I show her love and she gives me respect. I get respected therefore, I show her more love. She gets more love and she gives me more respect. It is awesome.
God comanded the man to love his wif
