Coastie,
Assuming we are talking beyond the example of getting cash-in-hand (i.e. "cash out"), and now talking about how to split the 401k so that you don't pay penalties or taxes now, then I suspect you still aren't asking the right questions. If you are asking questions of your accountant of the type "if I take the cash...", or "if I cash out the 401k...", then you might not be getting the answers you want.
Divorces are commonplace these days. 401k accounts, though in a single name are often considered "joint property" in divorce settlements.
With that said, I would be very surprised to find that most states don't provide some mechanism for a 401k to be divided, and part of the 401k rolled over into a new retirement vehicle for one spouse, and the remainder to the other spouse.
Put simply, it happens so often, there has to be a way to roll these things over as part of a divorce settlement such that there are no penalties, nor taxes at the time of settlement. Taxes would then be paid when the divorced couple take their withdrawals years later...typically when their respective tax situations make it less of an issue.
UPDATE: Again, talk to a legit accountant about QDRO, and see the link below.
The article below clearly states that one of the exceptions for the withdrawal penalty is a divorce.
401k Withdrawal Exceptions
The following three exceptions also apply to 401k plans:
- Distributions or withdrawals made to you after termination of employment, if the separation from your employer occurred in or after the calendar year you reached age 55.
- Distributions of dividends from employee stock ownership plans.
-Distributions or withdrawals made to an alternate payee under a qualified domestic relations order. (This often happens as part of a divorce settlement.)
So, with a QRDO, you save the 10% penalty.
As for taxes, since the QRDO will be a document showing a distribution from her qualifying retirement account to YOU as the payee, you need simply ROLL that money over into an IRA and avoid paying taxes on it at this time (that's me speaking, but I am not a CPA...but a CPA should tell you the same thing).
However, if you want to SPEND the money now, then you have to pay taxes on it first. The taxes will then be YOUR responsibility, not her's, as it is YOU that is deciding to spend YOUR money now...money that was not yet taxed. (again, not a CPA, but that seems fair and legit to me).
I did quite a bit of research on QRDO. A QRDO is the divorce settlement document that is used as part of the withdrawal. If spouse A has a 401k worth $20,000, then a QRDO is drafted that gives spouse B a $10,000 withdrawal from that 401k account. Spouse B gets that $10,000 check as part of the settlement, and if they don't want to pay taxes on it they need simply roll it over into a qualifying retirement account (seems to me). That leaves $10,000 in the account, that the owner, spouse A, can do whatever they want with, but I assume most just keep the account active as long as employed by the company running the 401k.
Other's above are saying that you shouldn't be liable the taxes, that she should, but that simply doesn't make sense to me. Yes, it was her 401k, but the assets are shared marital assets...that is why you are getting some of the 401k balance in the settlement. Whether you choose to cash out or roll over the money you get is up to you, and it's your money. You will pay the taxes on your money, now, or later, as will she on her's.
TJR