Totally done, we gave up on the Christmas gift idea years ago!
We replaced it with the idea that each of us "kids" would host a family adventure sometime throughout the year. Back in March my wife & I took everyone to the <a href='http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/1/1d/Wwp-07.jpg'>World Water Park</a> as our christmas gift, a couple months after that, my brother hosted a campount and next weekend my sister & her hubby are hosting a canoe trip for the entire family.
I still have an unmailed Christmas card I wrote for my grandmother five years ago...she died a year after I wrote it. I did call and wish her a Merry Christmas that year though. Sometimes we just get too preoccupied with the unimportant things.